Naptime’s quiet veiled the house in that peace felt now only between one to three in the afternoon. I sat on the couch, preparing to fold clothes. I turned on the TV to ABC Family and the first statement heard in the quiet was,
“Remember how we decided to stop having sex?”
Angered, I turned the channel. This second show, I realized in about two minutes, was about a family who’s daughter was pregnant and engaged…and only 15.
Lately, I’ve found fewer and fewer shows that I can watch with the girls in the room with me. It’s now down to one. And it’s one that has caused surprising debate.
19 Kids and Counting.
The entire family is devoutly religious. The women all wear skirts and both the mother of the 19 children (Michelle) and the bride of the oldest son (Anna) have decided to be open to children as they come. I can relate to several aspects of their lives.
But, I have realized lately how counter-cultural I am.
As my husband, two girls, and I meandered through Sam’s Club last night, I stopped dead in my tracks. There stood a young girl, only about ten, with her father. She wore a very tight, short t-shirt with glitter and a flannel shirt over it, tied so that her midriff could still show. On the bottom, she wore fishnet hose…and that’s it. Just fishnet hose.
I wanted to take the young girl home with me, before it was too late. But, I think that it already is.
Innocence is dying. Becoming extinct.
I have read numerous articles and perused many websites blasting the Duggars and their lifestyle. How they “subject” their women, are irresponsible in their family planning decisions.
Had I walked up to the parents of that young girl last night and questioned their daughter’s dress, they more than likely would have replied, “It’s our choice. Mind your own business.”
As I looked around Sam’s Club, I realized how many girls were dressed so sexually. Young girls. Stomachs showing, shorts and jeans with holes, low-cut shirts. Why was no one upset about this? Why is it legitimate to allow young girls to walk around objectifying themselves?
Who is fighting for these young girls who are revealing their bodies to men of all ages? Who is fighting for them? No one. Because those people are too busy arguing that people like the Duggars are objectifying their own women.
I want to get rid of the television. So my daughters don’t hear the sexuality, the violence, the language that could rob them of their peace and innocence. I want to teach my girls that they are beautiful children of God.
That they are a gift. A beautiful gift. And, as a gift from God, they should keep their beauty wrapped and shielded. Because they are worthy of that.
I want to show all girls their beauty, their worth. That this worth is their gift, and they should shield it, too, because they deserve that.
But there are too many influences in these girls’ lives saying the opposite. Nicki Manij shows them being beautiful means changing your hairstyle everyday to freakish colors and textures. Maria Carey wears revealing tops. Lady Gaga takes Nicki to a whole different level. Am I the only one who wonders what they really look like underneath all that artificial stuff?
Sadly, I cannot help that sweet girl at the store. I can’t help any of the young girls out there. But, I can affect my little sphere. My sweet girls. I can keep them sweet and innocent and peaceful. I can set an example that is counter cultural. That beauty is not hair color or make up or bizarre or sexualized outfits. It goes deeper. Beauty is being themselves. And, oh, how truly and naturally beautiful my girls are!